The name of this blog, Bury the Hatchet, comes from the idea that a "hatchet" is a symbol of war — thus, "burying" it puts an end to war and violence.
Isn't there a long-simmering war between the sexes? Doesn't it all too often erupt into violence today?
A "hatchet" is also a phallic symbol. (Any of you older folks remember when Ed Ames threw a tomahawk on the Johnny Carson show and hit an outlined target of a man right in the crotch? The handle of the Indian-style hatchet stood up at a suggestive angle, so the accidental joke which had everyone in stitches had a double meaning ... )
In my less-than-humble opinion, there would be little male-on-female violence if sex did not involve a guy burying his "hatchet" in the private parts of a girl. Phallic symbols have always had a double meaning.
It's all about sex. I think men, at some level, want to own "their" women's private parts!
Her sexuality, her fertility, her vagina and womb and sexual self — many a man acts as if they belong to him — if he's sleeping with her, and especially if he's married to her.
It begins long before the wedding. Date rape is his way of staking a claim of ownership early on.
Calling her (by whatever cleaned-up language) a "lying, filthy hoe" — see Welcome to the Bury the Hatchet blog! — is his reaction to the fact that she won't let him possess her sexual self.
If she even flirts with another guy, watch out.
If she sleeps around or cheats on him, she deserves whatever she gets.
If she gets pregnant and he's not certain the baby is his, that goes double.
That's the mantra here.
I think we men need to come to grips with the idea that, somewhere deep down, we all want to establish exclusive ownership rights over "our" women's sexuality. When that desire gets frustrated, violence can erupt.
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